Living Unshamed

Living our life in regret of past disappointments and bad decisions can really stifle our emotional, spiritual and mental growth.Eventually, I believe it begins to affect our physical being in one way or another. For so many years, I lived in regret and shame.

I’ve  been faced with some challenging situations that I believe, forced me to make some very difficult choices and I didn’t always make the best choice.


I was scared.FEAR (It literally makes me cringe internally) will cause us to make some quick, unwise, unadvised choices to promptly rid ourselves of the issue, or so we think. The thing about fear though, is that it’s irrational! Fear is False-Evidence Appearing Real. During taxing times, the information that we focus on is usually all the evidence that supports the worst case scenario. I choose to believe there is only one plan to step out from under the guilt and shame and that’s (1) facing reality, (2)owning our responsibility in the matter and (3)living unashamed after we’ve made amends.

We are not our choices. We are a divine design created for greatness.

We simply go through life and all it’s mountains and valleys to grow in maturity and become who we were designed to be. Even the symbol of our heartbeat’s vibration reflects the balance of life.

I think that through life we struggle with the balance of who we truly are and who we were raised to be. Most times they aren’t a direct reflection of one another and we strive through life to be this person that we are expected to be, instead of who we were created to be.

In TD Jake’s sermons and his book Instinct , He basically states that “Finding our destiny will ALWAYS disappoint people who have assigned us to theirs.” Knowing and embracing who you are and who you were designed to be gives you a confidence that produces in you an ability to conquer an otherwise assumed defeat. We have to take everything we learned, through disappointment, hurt, shameful choices, past regret as well as possible guilt and use that as fuel to our fire. We have to let that be our inspiration to do better and not allow it to overshadow the “Message in our Mess.”


Someone needs to hear your story. Be an Answer to someone’s question. Someone will be inspired by watching you. Someone’s life will be saved both figuratively and literally because of what you’ve been THROUGH and learned from. Live on Purpose. Live for Purpose. Live Unashamed!



Heart Check

I had such an interesting discussion with a friend of mine today on his FB post. Have you ever just begun to have a discussion with someone and all you can do is say


We have this SAME discussion every year.” ???


I love my friend, I truly do but sometimes some discussions, I believe, are purely to get a “rise” out of people and to give the person who started the discussion, a platform to share all the wisdom and information they have gathered and feel good about themselves. I GET THAT! There is nothing wrong with sharing information.
1) Is what I’m saying edifying people?
2) Am I sharing to inform or am I sharing to build up my own ego? (let’s be real)
3) How does it make me feel each time I or a friend has a valid rebuttal? Does something rise up in me to PROVE my point?
4) Is what I’m sharing, provided with a spirit of humility and served in love?
We as believers in Christ, have to be examples of our faith. We are to be the epitome of the PURPOSE of Christ. Though our tactics and lifestyles may be different (Tattoo, no tattoos, Christmas celebration or not, Angel costume on Halloween or no costume, Pentecostal gospel music or a softer approach)
We celebrate and SHOW Jesus in our love toward others. We don’t lose or gain sainthood in our actions. Our actions don’t necessarily save us or condemn us. Our Love, our Faith, Our Belief in THE ONE that saves is what will warrant our actions. If we aren’t inwardly convicted by what we do and we do it IN LOVE, then I believe God is happy with us.
I don’t believe we need to point fingers at people, condemn people, correct people for choices that they freely make.
 BUT.. We don’t have to agree EITHER!
You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. - Unknown
When Jesus corrected, he did so in Love. Who are WE to tell someone what is right or wrong for them. We don’t know the ministry God has called them to. We don’t know what God is working out THROUGH their lives. God will USE everything for His Glory.
My job is to love on people. If someone asks my opinion, I can share what I believe God told ME to do or how he’s corrected my thoughts about something. If God wants them to change it, HE will convict them in their spirits First, NOT use YOU to make them feel an unholy guilt.  The enemy of God is the one that causes Guilt and Shame, he is the accuser. When God Corrects in Love you feel a desire to change because it just doesn’t feel right anymore.
CHECK YOUR HEART when you think you are correcting, informing or “just letting someone know.”
“Pride will always be the Longest Distance between two people.”- unknown
People will MISS the wisdom in what you say because your Pride is speaking so loudly
 A haughty heart is Prideful and “Pride goes before a fall.. “



At it Again

Nothing beats a fail but a try… right!?

wiley Coyote


Well, I sure Hope that’s Right!  I’m definitely a person created to inspire others. I would summarize my best gift as the gift of exhortation. I get the most joy when I see that I’ve sparked in someone, a dormant creativity or self confidence. I consider myself a “DO-er”, the ONLY problem with that is that I also consider myself to be a great strategist who isn’t so great with following through and seeing a project to the end. THIS is a problem.

This has been a downfall of mine for many years, until now! I will no longer be this incomplete person. I will rise to the calling and succeed at EVERYTHING I put my mind to do. I will not FAIL! I can do this. So can you. The power starts when we BELIEVE in ourselves. For so long I thought such negative things about myself, about my abilities and about who I was. That day is OVER! From this day forward.. I WIN!